Saturday, December 27, 2014

In Conclusion- 2014

[via Instagram]
I know it has been a while since I have posted anything. I had to take, in all honesty, a mental health break. With the first semester of second year coming to a close, I was feeling worn out. Within my last two days of school, I had two papers and a huge project due. Needless to say, I was stressed. I let my treasured "me time" fall behind as I forged ahead, and it all caught up to me. All of my December Goals fell short (although I did paint my nails a couple times) However, after some time to sleep in and spend with family and friends, I was able to clear my mind. Am I feeling better? Absolutely. But I still have some work to do. My life requires a little bit of organization before I head back into school and dive into blogging again. I feel confident that I will be able to achieve this. I was doing so well for a few months, and looking ahead, I am determined to find my way once again.

In other news, I wish a Merry (belated) Christmas to everyone, and I hope your New Year is simply magical! I am looking forward to a week away to do some skiing with my dad and sister, and I will not be posting anything for the remainder of 2014. I am not one for New Resolution's because I believe you can make goals for yourself any time of year, but I hope to really stick to the regular Tuesday and Saturday schedule. I have a couple product reviews, book reviews, and exciting Pinterest activities in the line up. I'm still using my social media, so feel free to follow me on Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest. If you've been reading this for a while, thanks for being part of my year!


Wednesday, November 26, 2014

December Goals

Did I skip my outfit post on Saturday? Yes, yes I did. I had some personal things going on last week, and I wasn’t quite in the right state of mind to take the time to do a blog post. My apologies! I have since decided that I’m just going to do last week’s outfit post this week. And since I’ll be out of outfits starting next week since classes are finishing, that means you have one extra week of posts! So no complaints right? I also got a nasty sounding cough out of nowhere, so I’m hoping it doesn’t result in a full blown sickness. That is not what I need when it is coming down to finals. I mean, I have three papers due next week. We’ll see how things go.

I made a plan for today’s post, but I want to share something different. December is coming up. It’s in less than a week. Seeing as I have only one exam, I want to focus my time on me. I can feel myself losing focus and motivation and myself in general. I haven’t been taking the time I need to recharge. I’m behind on work, and I’m not enjoying school as much as I used to. This is real talk time. No one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean we can’t strive to be the best versions of ourselves. So I have a plan. I’m giving myself five simple steps for success in December. I say simple because I have a bigger goal in my mind, but if I try to accomplish the bigger goal first, then I will become overwhelmed. So I am keeping it simple. Here we go:

1.       Workout

My dad and my sister have been on my back about getting my legs ready for an upcoming ski trip. And they have a point. I should be working out my legs this month. And I should be working out in general. So my goal here is to work out my legs as well as my arms because I feel like that’s important too.  The thing is, I hate working out. I refuse to be around people because I am uncomfortable and sometimes, I cry. I’ll be taking small steps and figure out how to do it.

2.       Paint my Nails

This is part of the “take care of myself” thing. I have so much nail polish, and I find it so calming to paint my nails, but I have not done it at all. My nails look awful, and I miss the polish! So I intend to bring it back to a weekly schedule and have some me time.

3.       Catch Up on Notes

I am so behind on my notes. I planned to copy out my notes to make them legible, but I have been slacking on it. I know that once I clean up the notes that are littered around my room, my mind will be a little clearer as well. It will also put me in a good place once January rolls around.

4.       Go to Bed Early

I am awful at going to bed early. It is currently 11:46 pm, and I still need to shower and get ready for bed. Case in point. I want to actually put an effort forward to go to bed early so I can wake up early and get stuff done.

5.       Plan Ahead

It’s not just that I don’t do this. It’s that I don’t stick to it. Or I plan ahead unrealistically and I spend too much time on things that don’t matter as much. For example, I want to write out my blog posts ahead of time. I know what I’m writing about. Just not when I actually write them.

So there are my December goals. I have written them down and published them on the Internet, so I need to put forth a conscious effort to make it happen. Wish me luck!

What tips do you have for refocusing your life?


Tuesday, November 18, 2014

The Big Picture

This past week, it started to snow where I live. As I was driving to pick my friend up, I was thinking about how I came to terms with certain things, and how I continue to have work to do to fully let go of a few more situations that have come up in my life. I was thinking about how I knew how silly things would seem in perspective, but also how hard it is to simply get over it. So in my toasty car, and with the swirling snow around me, I finally understood.

Each individual experience we have with a friend, or a family member, or with our personal struggles is like a snowflake. Snowflakes are, in fact, completely different from each other. One experience will not be the same compared to the next. That’s why we want to hold on so tight. But snowflakes are not meant to be held on to. In a futile attempt, we go around trying to catch these snowflakes, but ultimately, we are disappointed. If you try to hold a snowflake, it melts. Sometimes, we just need to let things fall into place. If we let the snow fall, we realize that it’s all part of a bigger picture. We can appreciate the snowflakes not for their individuality, but for their ability to be a part of something beyond them. And eventually, we can look back on the mountains we’ve climbed and see the beauty in the entire scenery. We see that each snowflake had a reason to be there, and if we had kept them all, then the world would have a little less beauty in it.

So we can look back on our experiences, and we will forget who got mad at who first, but we will realize that each experience is just a way to build you up. Our experiences are a part of us, but they do not define us. It’s all part of a bigger picture. I believe that everything happens for a reason. Most of the time, we don’t know what that reason is, and as hard as that is, we need to keep it mind. The power of perspective allows us to rise out of an unhappy place with the affirmation that in the end, things WILL turn out right. Keep your chin up, and remember to appreciate the obstacles that you have overcome.


Saturday, November 15, 2014

Copycat the Cool Way #15

So this week as been wonderful. I finished up an essay, got some surprisingly good marks back, and I visited my old high school to catch up with my old English teachers. I had some fantastic teachers in high school. One helped me realize how I wanted to teach English in high school. The other talked about England so much that I decided that I want to go to there for exchange. One of the reasons I chose my University was because of the exchange program. And I am currently in the process of applying for exchange to go to Leeds in England next year. It's already so exciting!

Despite all that great stuff, the highlight of the week was last night's themed birthday party. I didn't think themed parties were a real thing, but I have been to two already this year. I have three friends that share birthdays in December, and they never get to celebrate it during exam time, so they had it right now. Since it was a triple birthday, the theme was three. My friends and dressed up as baseball players, and we were "Three Strikes You're Out." It was kind of perfect actually. And it was so much fun! I have no pictures of the full costumes, but believe me!

Tuesday- I was so excited to see that the temperature was decent enough for tough-skinned people like me to go outside with just a sweater. However, the temperature did not stay so nice. I have this thing where I love winter, but I don't want it to come around until it's actually winter, so I don't dress for the cold at all as a protest. Needless to say, Mother Nature does not listen. So I went outside in just this shirt and sweater. The outfit came from my own mind, but I was inspired to add a statement necklace from Hello Fashion. I got compliments from people who had never talked to me before, so I think I did something right!

Sweater- Garage
Shirt- Aeropostale
Pants- Old Navy
Boots- Old Navy
Necklace- Garage

Wednesday- So I love cozy sweaters. The cable knit thing right now is my form of a winter wonderland heaven.  And the extra big and cozy scarves are getting up there on my list too. I got to wear both with this inspiration from J. Crew.

Scarf- Garage
Sweater- Old Navy
Oxfords- The Bay

Thursday- Both of classes were cancelled this day, but it was the day I went back to my high school, and I was running errands for the costumes. Basically, I wanted to wear a good outfit, but I didn't want to waste one of my looks on a day where I saw minimal people. So in light of #tbt, I decided to  look back on my outfits from the past for ideas. This one came from my second outfit post when I didn't have any system of organization within my posts. I did change the outfit slightly, and I did that top button up. Am I cool yet?
Sweater- Roots
Button up- Old Navy
Jeans- Old Navy
Boots- Wal-Mart

Friday- I just wanted to wear a sweater. I wanted to be cozy, but I wanted to look good too.  Enter  the statement necklace. I had been admiring the way my favourite YouTuber has been pulling off a plain shirt/sweater and the statement necklace. So I channelled my inner Grace Helbig (pictured to the right)and I went for it. I used inspiration from Atlantic-Pacific for the casual cool look, and it was great to wear a sweater. But let me tell you, when the fire alarm goes off for a drill in the middle of class when it just so happens to be snowing, this is not warm enough. Also, I did not feel like putting my boots on to take the picture.

 So there was my week! I still love the idea of the costume party.
Have you been to any themed parties?

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Pinterest Challenge- Letter Bottles

As I mentioned in my last challenge post, I do not do enough crafty things. In fact, I do nothing crafty. Art has never been my forte. My mom bought me the Old Navy shirt that says "less is more" (as seen in Friday's outfit here) just so I would keep that in mind if I ever ventured into the creative world. And I guess I did. I found the idea on Pinterest, and the title of the article on Buzzfeed is 31 Insanely Easy and Clever DIY Projects, so I figured that it was worth a shot. Aaaaand I messed up the first one. TIP: Do the letters slowly. You can see every mark when you paint it over.

1. You can use any jar or bottle or container you want.
2. Using a hot glue gun, *CAREFULLY* write a word on the bottle.
3. Let the glue fully dry before proceeding to the next step.

1. I used a sponge brush and white acrylic paint for my jars.
2. Completely paint the jar, including in between the letters.
3. Let the jar dry overnight before adding a second coat. When doing a second coat, I did not paint in between the letters, I simply brushed over them.

The final products were amazing. I am currently using the two taller jars to store beauty products.


 You can use any words you would like for the jars. On the jars pictured two above, I put some inspirational words on so I have a daily reminder. On the jars pictured directly above,  I put two values that mean something to me.
I am proud of myself for completing this project. In total, it took an hour to do all four jars. And they look amazing on display in my room. If you're looking for some easy decorations, I strongly suggest this project.
Have you ever tried something like this from Pinterest?

Sunday, November 9, 2014

Copycat the Cool Way #14

Another late post. It has been difficult to find the time to get everything done. I have realized a few adjustments I need to make at this busy time of school. I am lucky that all my midterms and essays are spread out, but starting this week, I have something due every week. So I am going to need to tweak some of my time management skills. Never too late to learn a new way to do something!

Tuesday- I love this baseball tee. The original outfit from Harper's Bazaar called for a scarf that was similar tones to the shirt. I decided to go a different way and try a colourful scarf. It was a fun way to make an outfit even brighter, especially since the weather has been so dismal this week!

Scarf- Gift from New York
Shirt- Bootlegger
Jeans- Old Navy
Boots- Old Navy

Wednesday- One of my favourite stores is Roots, because of the quality and comfort. And I mean comfort. I could live in the sweatpants alone, but the whole point of this post is to NOT wear sweatpants in public. The reason I bring this up is because both my t-shirt and the sweater came from Roots, and it was perfect for my longest day at school. The idea is from Ealuxe.

Scarf- Garage
Sweater- Roots
T-shirt- Roots
Jeans- Old Navy
Boots- Wal-Mart

Thursday- Thursday was one of those days. I had an appointment at school in the morning, and I stuck around for class to find out that my classes were cancelled for the day. And it rained every time I went outside. And I lost my house key somewhere in my house. And this outfit from Fashionista Trends was too warm for the day. Am I complaining? Maybe.

Scarf- Gift from New York
Sweater- Nevada
T- Shirt- Target
Jeans- Old Navt
Boots- Sorel

Friday- I got a lot of compliments on this outfit. Why? The bold lip. It's amazing how a simple outfit can be changed by something as simple as a good lipstick. I mentioned the NYC Lip stain in my September monthly favourites, and since then, I have bought many more lip glosses and stains and sticks. The original outfit from an unknown source called for a messy cool look, so I like to think I elevated the overall style.

Scarf- Garage
T-shirt- Old Navy
Jeans- Old Navy
Boots- Old Navy

So there are my outfits. I felt the most confident and cool on Friday, and I have the lip colour to thank for that!

What was that last thing you wore that made you feel confident?


Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Coming to Terms With . . .

Fill in the blank. I have come to terms with __________. I think people underestimate how powerful it is to come to terms with things in your life. In terms of how powerful it can be for yourself, I align it with letting people go. This can apply to any situation. In my case, I have recently come to terms with a couple things, and I feel so free. It has made me happier, and things that I used to worry about are no longer on the forefront of my mind. I recently explained this idea to a friend, and he agreed with me.
The first situation of mine is the fact that I’m single. I always say that I don’t have a problem with it. And I don’t. That being said, it’s hard to be single when all my closest friends are in relationships, and the university culture means that I see and hear about people hooking up more than I care to know about. It’s tough to know that at this time, I’m not what most guys want because I want a relationship and not a hookup. However, through a conversation with some good friends, I have come to terms with this. I know that I have a lot to give in a relationship. I know that I am different than a lot of girls around me. I know which qualities that I possess that make me desirable. I am in a constant battle with my inner demons over the insecurities that come with knowing those things, but being in a world that contrasts those thoughts. My friends made me realize that yes, at the time, it is tough to believe in myself, but my amazing qualities are ones that will be valuable in the future. I may not be first in line for guys right now, but in the future, when they want to settle down in a relationship, than I will come into consideration. I’m making this sound like a business arrangement, but it is a thought that has comforted me many times. Do I still have lonely times? Yes. But they come around less since I have come to terms with the idea of being single. I do admit that I would have feelings of jealousy towards my friends in relationships, but that is a feeling that has disappeared. I have plenty of time to be single and have fun and do my own thing before starting a relationship, and I am now thankful for this!
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My second situation I will address in a general way because it was something that happened recently, and I’d rather not share details. I pride myself on living without regret. I choose to learn and grow from every situation, whether it is positive or negative. However, I recently found myself in a situation where, in the moment, I could see more negative than positive. In the moments following, I considered it a mistake. For two days, I wrestled with what seemed like a moral dilemma in my mind. I talked it out to many friends, and I did some soul-searching and found my peace through these outlets. After the smoke cleared, I saw that there were more positive aspects to the situation than I originally thought, and once I came to terms with it, the negative didn’t matter as much. I am now easily able to brush it off. I am finding myself excited, and thankful for the situation. Regret is no longer a part of the situation. It was not a mistake, but a beginning to a new part of life.

In both of these situations, I happened to have friends that help me come to a conclusion. It may take more soul searching for you to find your inner peace. Whether you are dealing with insecurities, or bad decisions, then coming to terms with the issue will relieve the anxiety and doubts associated with dwelling on it. Ask yourself some questions. Will this matter in 1 year? Does this make me any less of a wonderful person (NOT does it make you FEEL less wonderful)? What can I learn from this? Am I okay with my decision?

If have a specific issues to address, feel free to contact me.


Saturday, November 1, 2014

Copycat the Cool Way #13

This is going to be a lot shorter than most posts. I had my fall study break this week, so I had only two days of school. I did, however, go to another football game today so we're lucky to have three outfits. I just want to mention that it is November 1st. Where I live, it snowed. SNOW! I am a winter person, but only when it is winter. Before winter is not okay. I left the game at halftime because my friend and I couldn't feel our legs. So the outfit I chose did not work out so well. Oh well.

Tuesday- I found this outfit via Pinterest, but it is on the blog That Kind of Woman. I feel like I use this dress too often. I have some crazy awesome dresses, and I think they all need a chance to play outside of the closet. But since it is SNOWING (sense my bitterness?) these days, I can no longer bare my legs. Siiiigh. I loved the colour of the shirt with the dress though. My mom says that she wouldn't have used the belt I chose though. What do you think?

Dress- Old Navy
Denim Shirt- Old Navy
Belt- Jessica Simpson

Wednesday- This is was so simple. I liked the plain shirt from Atlantic-Pacific, but I added a patterned shirt and bold lip to the outfit. It was rather brave of me to wear my sandals. I'm trying to hold on to the fall weather before temperatures start dropping I guess.

Button up- Old Navy
Jean Jacket- Old Navy
Jeans- Old Navy

Bonus- Like I said, this was too cold. And I was wearing a jacket and a scarf on top of this! I came up with this outfit by myself. It's nothing special, but I love these jeans. The Old Navy cropped jeans are back!

Hat- Roots
Sweater- Bluenotes
Shirt- University Book Store
Jeans- Old Navy
Shoes- Converse

Nails of the Week- This week, I wore Essie's Fair Game. I'm not a huge fan of metallic shades, but I  liked this one compared to others I tried.

And that was my week in outfits! I loved the days I got to spend in my jammies. It's been a good week. That's all!

How's the weather shaping up where you live?


Friday, October 31, 2014

Monthly Favourites- October 2014

Happy Halloween everyone! I have an observation to start off. I am in charge of Halloween this year, and my mom told me to be ready for the little ones at 5:00. I waited for an hour before anyone showed up! Are kids not going out or are there simply no little kids in my neighbourhood anymore? I don't know, but this is so exciting for me! I am over the moon about how cute all the costumes are. Except, I was so excited about the first group of kids to arrive that I forgot to look at their costumes. Oh well.

October was a good month. I survived midterms, and I did very well on a couple that I didn't think I was going to do well on. For this week, I have been looking forward to dressing up and going out. However, I was lacking creativity this year. I had three costume events to go to, and I wanted three different costumes. One was a redo from the work dodgeball tournament, so I was an army person. Tonight, I ended up as a Christmas Cook (which is my favourite costume so far), and tomorrow, I will be a unicorn. All of my costumes ended up being comfortable, and decently warm (snow is in the forecast for this weekend), so I am proud of myself in the end. But enough about Halloween; here are the things that got my through this month!

1. Favourite Food

The last time I had food on this list was in April, and I considered gum to be food. But this is real food. Here is why I like Hershey's mini chocolate bars so much. This is the only time of year that I can actually eat Hershey's chocolate. Other than Hershey's Kisses, none of the other chocolate is safe for people with peanut/nut allergies. On Halloween, candy is mass distributed to so many kids, and allergies are so common these days that they have to make them safe for these kids. And me. I always go out and buy myself (at least) one box of these things. The awful part of this picture is that I bought both of these boxes within a week. I promise that I shared a majority of the chocolate!

2. Favourite App


Last month, I mentioned that I got Twitter, and I admit that I had Instagram at that point too. But I am not the best at learning how to function new technology things. It took me weeks! Now that I have figured it out, I love it. I don't what it is about people pretending that they are super artistic with their pictures that makes me so happy! At this point, I have only 6 posts, but bear with me. Creativity is not always prime in my mind.

3. Favourite Clothing Item

Old Navy cropped jeans are my life. No joke. I live in these jeans. The deal is that I am short. So cropped jeans are regular sized jeans on me. I've been buying these jeans (which I happen to find on sale every time I go in)  and then getting rid of my other jeans that are two feet taller than I am. Also, the "boyfriend fit" jeans are the best thing that ever happened to me clothes-wise. Cropped jeans + boyfriend fit is the best situation for me. So there we go. I am so a jeans person.

4. Favourite YouTube Genre


I stumbled on this genre because my Sociology prof suggested watching one particular video. Then I ended up on a loop of 1950s instructional videos. Yes, 1950s instructional videos. They are hilarious. As a feminist, some of them do kind of irk me, but for the most part, I just laugh it off. The best channel so far is OldTVTime. Go check it out. I don't have a favourite video yet.

5. Favourite Internet Item


I had no idea how to classify this. But here's the story: you know how you're cleaning and then you want to listen to something that keeps you relatively focused? I find that with music, I stop listening and start thinking about this or that and I get distracted. I can't watch YouTube or TV because you have to actually watch it. Enter podcasts. My favourite YouTuber Grace Helbig started a podcast called Not Too Deep with Grace Helbig. It is brilliant. It's hilarious, and entertaining, and I wish it would upload every day. I think the only reason my room is clean is because of this podcast. Unfortunately, it is recent, so I have limited choices. If I can't have Grace, I like to listen to Ear Biscuits with Rhett and Link.

That is all. I am now off to an awesome Halloween party with board games. I love board games.

What was your favourite part of October?


Wednesday, October 29, 2014

No Work Wednesdays

My best friend Marlee and I love Despicable Me.
I love friends. I love the idea of friends, I love the feeling of friends, and I love MY friends. I don’t know if I’ve said it before, but I have the best friends in the world. I am the happiest I have ever been because I am surrounded by the best people I could ever ask. My friends are my sidekicks, my rocks, my joy. They listen to my crazy, support me in any way they can, and the advice they give me is stellar. I will always hold my friends close to my heart because I know what it feels like to go through life without friends. I am thankful to have a handful of people to call best friends, and I am thankful that the connections in school have allowed my number of acquaintances to grow. I appreciate everything they do for me. Whether it’s answering my stupid questions, teaching me how to use Instagram, letting me cry on their shoulders, coming to my first university football game with me, or jamming out to the new Taylor Swift album, I treasure every moment I spend with them. The previous sentence was all based on true stories.

I share Wednesdays with Ashley (middle) and Madison (right).
The reason I bring this up is because I have had a fantastic day with a couple amazing friends. Among this insane time of midterms and essays and more midterms, we have found a haven with each other. We are all burdened with an extra long break in between our classes on Wednesdays. We try to get work done, but in a three-six hour time span, full focus remains unreachable. So we fill in the space with whatever we feel like doing that day. That has included shopping trips, adventures through forests (resulting in me falling in a river), Taylor Swift jams, McDonalds lunches, and life chats. We have officially dubbed Wednesdays as “No Work Wednesdays”. Don’t be surprised if it ends up as a hashtag on Twitter or Instagram.

Believe it or not, I have a moral to this whole thing. People get so stressed out about life. They get all caught up in the bustle of work or school or personal thing, and they forget how important it is to be with other people. Everyone needs friends to kick back with. It lowers your blood pressure (not based on scientific fact), and it makes you feel good about yourself (also not based on real facts). So if you’re going through a tough time right now, make sure you schedule some time with your best friend. I promise you that it is not wasted time. Could you get work done in that time? Sure. But will you run yourself down in the process? Most likely. You need the time with your friends. Trust me.


P.S. Go follow these people on social media.


Instagram and Twitter- @jupperoni


Instagram- @greener18


Instagram- @marleejane28

Twitter- @MarleeJane28


Monday, October 27, 2014

Copycat the Cool Way #12

So I have learned a valuable lesson this week. I really need to start writing things in advance. I also need to be more diligent about taking these copycat posts. I had an unexpectedly busy weekend with two last minute babysitting jobs and my sister requiring my help. Soooooooo, I need to take these pictures ahead of time so I can sit down in the hour I was home on Saturday and write this post when I was supposed to other than a few days late. I'm sorry. This has a slight affect on my schedule this week. I will write my regular Tuesday post on Wednesday, my monthly favourite post on Friday, and my copycat posts on Saturday. So there we go! Lots of posts this week!

Tuesday- I realize that this outfit really did not turn out the way I wanted it to. I tried. I really tried. But hey, things happen. I need grey pants. That's what I got out of this. I have also come to the realization that I need to configure all of my outfit ideas. I have pictures posted on a cork board in my room, saved on my computer, and pinned on my outfit board. I couldn't remember where it came from! It makes no sense. I finally figured out that is was from WhoWhatWear.

Denim shirt- Old Navy
Shirt- Winners
Pants- Old Navy
Boots- Wal-Mart

Wednesday- If you are following me on Instagram, then you have already seen a picture of this outfit. And the caption is true. I fell in a river. The pants I am wearing in this picture are not the original pants because the others were all covered with mud. It happens. Maybe to only me, but it happens. This outfit was on the Tumbler blog Death by Elocution (which is a great name), but I found it on Pinterest originally.

Cardigan- Old Navy
T-Shirt- Old Navy
Jeans- Old Navy
Boots- Sorel

Thursday- New favourite thing: cozy sweaters. I bought this sweater the day before and I simply had to wear it today. Thinking about cozy is making me happy. This is why I love fall. The idea is from Penny Pincher Fashion, and it is from an edit picture. It is the upper left corner of the full edit if you're curious. Also, I realized right about now that I did not actually wear these boots. The boots I wore are found on the Thursday outfit of this post. Don't you fear, I will have more cozy sweater outfits!

Scarf- Garage
Sweater- Roots
T-Shirt (underneath)- Target
Jeans- Old Navy
Boots- Sorel

Bonus- My outfit on Friday was nothing special. I kept it simple with jeans and a red t-shirt out of respect for the Canadian soldier Nathan Cirillo that was shot last week in Ottawa (read about it here). Please remember this fallen hero as you go about your week. Anyway, I ended up going to my university's football game on Saturday, so I am sharing my outfit for that with you. It was a blast, but fall layering is of utmost important for being outside and siting down. I loved the way game layering was done on Seersucker & Saddles, so I made it my own! I was not too warm and not too cold. I loved the way that I could show off my purple without it being too in your face with spirit. I'm planning to go to the first final game next weekend, so GO STANGS!

Toque- University Bookstore
T-shirt- Last year's o-week
Plaid Button-up- Old Navy
Denim Jacket- Old Navy
Pants- Old Navy
Shoes- Converse

Nails of the Week- It's back! I haven't done a nails of the week since April! This is Angora Cardi by Essie. I think is it a perfect fall colour.

This weekend is Halloween, so I'm hoping that my costume will make it into this upcoming outfit post. To be honest, I don't even know what I'm dressing as.


Tuesday, October 21, 2014

The Modern Superwoman

Something you should know about me is that I am a feminist. Think of that what you may, but I feel no need to explain myself to you. It is a part of my life, and it is part of my identity, sure as my name is Daniella. I took a Women’s Studies course last year in school, but I was unable to continue with it because of the course module I am taking for my Honours Specialization in English. At the moment, I am taking a course in American Women Writers, and a term has come up rather frequently in this course as it did in Women’s Studies. That term is “superwoman.”

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines superwoman as “an exceptional woman; especially:  a woman who succeeds in having a career and raising a family.” Historically, the term superwoman came about in 2nd Wave Feminism as a term of empowerment, and the definition above captures the essence of the 2nd Wave movement. You can read more about it here, here, or here, but the important thing to keep in mind is that feminism at this time became a social movement. This meant that more focus was paid to the lives women wanted to lead that took place outside of the home. How does the superwoman term come into play here? Well, women were still expected to look after their domestic tasks. Essentially, they had to balance their social lives, chores at home, family, and career all at once. Is anyone getting anxious just thinking about that? Me too. Were these women expected to have multiple arms?

Now that you know what the term superwoman means, how does it make you feel? I align this term with the notion of the “ideal” woman. I have no idea how one is expected to maintain all aspects of their lives by themselves. I can hardly cook, and I depend on Pinterest for outfit inspiration. Men are certainly helping and taking more interest in domestic lives more and more, and I am grateful for this change. However, I believe that the superwoman term has simply changed with the times. The “ideal” woman is still a vision in society’s mind, but it remains unattainable.

Women are expected to have perfect hair and nails and makeup, but when they put too much on, they are no longer a real person, and they are not good looking enough if they don’t want to put the effort in. Women are expected to be sexually appealing, but if they sleep with guys, they are a slut, and if they don’t, they are a prude. Women are expected to be gentle and kind, but they are considered rude and a bitch if they are not, and if they are, they are considered a pushover. As much as I would love to say that we should find a middle ground, I strongly suspect that society will find something wrong with that too.

I grow more and more frustrated as I write this. Why must we place such a strong value on being perfect? Why must there be a right and wrong way to live as a woman? I know that I have given in to these “standards” at some point in my life, and I am saddened by this.  I don’t think any gender should be defined by lines and boxes. Men certainly have roles they must perform too. They are expected to be masculine, and strong, and even dominant by some standards. Just to touch on the topic of transgender issues, the traditional male and female roles of society do not allow for transgender individuals to fit in at all! The similarity when it comes to gender roles is that neither men nor women have a lot to work with and make their own. The world leaves little to the imagination, which does not stimulate our creativity, and allow us to create our own being. For a society who wants us to “find ourselves,” it sure gave us a small sandbox to explore.

Can we please focus on our own beauty and strength and goals? Can we live the lives we want to live? Can we teach our children that it is okay to step outside the boundaries? After all, the world was not changed by people who played by the rules.

Note: My pictures were found on Pinterest with no link to another website.